Mental Health Awareness Month

Happy Mental Health Awareness Month, Disabled Fam!

For so long, mental health has been ignored, both in the disabled community and in society as a whole. For generations, people were told to "be strong," "toughen up," or to "stop crying and get on with it." This created a society where being emotional came with negative connotations and perceptions. Research shows, the exact opposite is true.

Some of the strongest and most successful people throughout history were innately in tune with their emotions. They thrived because they learned how to process through the difficult times, finding solutions that supported their well being, rather than trying to avoid the difficult emotions that emerged throughout their journeys in life.

Having a disability can often be seen as a burden, something unwanted that will make life incredibly difficult and even worthless. And, there are misconceptions that having a disability means that you will constantly need support, and will be unable to live an independent or enjoyable life. Of course, this is not true!

Because of these misconceptions, it's common for many people with disabilities to fight to show that they are independent and strong. This can look like refusing support and avoiding accommodations, like the use of mobility tools. Paradoxically, accepting support and utilizing accommodations is exactly what has made my life with a disability so enriching, fulfilling and independent.

The truth is, I constantly need help and support because of my blindness. And yet, I've traveled independently in Europe, run a successful business, have a loving partner and genuinely enjoy my life, blindness included. Having a disability does make certain aspects of my life more difficult, but it doesn't make my existence unworthy or less-than.

Utilizing a mobility tool, asking for an accommodation and accepting support sounds easy on paper. And yet, the mental anxiety and overwhelm that come with these important steps can be emotionally exhausting- like there is a constant battle waging in your head. I clearly remember questions running wild in my brain like- "What are people thinking about me? Do people think I'm faking it if they know I'm using a cane while I'm also able to see? When I use my cane, do they think I'm a charity case?" If this is you, I want you to know that what you're experiencing is normal- it's okay to struggle, and you are not alone.

Creating a balanced and enriching relationship with your disability starts with reaching out to a mental health professional, specifically someone who has knowledge and expertise in the unique challenges of the disabled experience.

It's okay to not be okay. It's okay to not be able to figure it all out on your own. We all need support, people with disabilities included.

If you're struggling right now, it won't be or feel this way forever.

Please know that I am here to support you, and that I always have your back. ❤️

Sending love,

Charlie

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